Why Your Dream Guy Isn’t So Dreamy
Thanks to cartoons, movies, and television, women have been forced to invoke images of what the perfect man should be. Although the perfect guy is unique to each woman, the media has drilled into our heads that we’ll know what he looks like when we see him. So, the question is, is creating a mental dream guy a bad thing?
The answer to that question is yes. Whatever the word “perfect” means to you, the use of that word is precisely the problem — it’s impossible for someone to be flawless when there’s a checklist of criteria for them to meet. Sooner or later, you’ll be on an endless hunt for a guy that you’ll never find because no man is perfect and no woman should ask him to be.
Forming a list of expectations also limits what you find acceptable in a man and will negatively affect the choices that you make. For example, you’ll feel more inclined to let your guy go with the first minor mistake he makes. You can’t expect a guy to not be too nice, to never lie to you, to never argue with you and to never say the wrong thing at the wrong time. That’s one exhaustive list and will lead to your being disappointed.
According to fairy tales, the perfect man is disguised as prince charming. Prince charming will show up at your door, grab your hand gently and carry you off into the sunset. But, in reality, prince charming should be the guy that holds your hand and walks you to your dorm. Your knight in shining armor should be the guy that you can trust, one that enjoys spending time with you and making you smile!
Get rid of preconceived notions and you’ll see that the perfect guy is the average Joe sitting right behind you in Calculus. Get rid of preconceived notions and you’ll see that the perfect guy is the barista you see at Starbucks every day. Open up your mind and look past what you think a dream guy should be!