You’re dating a co-worker? Uh oh.
Why is it that we insist on dating a co-worker, even though we know it will only hurt us in the end? Perhaps it’s the fact that we know we shouldn’t that makes it so appealing. To be fair, it could work out in your favor. But in my experience, it only leads to anxiety, tension and an eventual resignation.
It is already stressful enough to be a college student with a job, and dating someone you work with only adds to the large amount of stress. While there are a few definite positives, here are some of the negatives to an “office” relationship:
1. You see them every day. While this is initially a positive in the relationship (more togetherness, yay!), it eventually becomes a nuisance. Awkwardness or sexual tension ensue, and it becomes an unpleasant environment.
2. No space between work and your relationship. When couples spend all of their time together, it can be too much. Working with your significant other is no exception. If you already talk about everything while you’re in the workplace, what do you talk about on your date? Also, you can develop a pattern in which you’re comfortable, and when it is over – you’re lost.
3. You can disagree on how the job is done. If one of you is a slacker while the other one takes the job seriously, it can create unnecessary problems in your relationship. Sure, they say fighting and making up is the key to a healthy relationship – but this is one situation fighting cannot solve.
We all already know that dating a boss is a no go. (Sure, it can help you get ahead – but, wait. Are you really that selfish? Come on. If it’s for love – go for it. But it can only hurt your career in the future if it ends terribly). But it turns out that dating a co-worker can be just as harmful to your life and your career.
I know we can’t help ourselves sometimes! But let’s be honest – romantic tension is the best part of the relationship. (Sure, it can also be the worst, but that’s not the point). The point is that while it may seem like a good idea to go for it – consider that it can sometimes only lead to trouble.