What Not to Bring Up on a First Date
By Shanae Bass
If you’ve been on more first dates than you can count, by now, you’re probably a first date expert. But for some of us a little less experienced/rusty on the dating scene, it may be time for a quick refreshers course. We can’t be there at the dinner table with you, but we can help you keep in mind what NOT to bring up on the first date. Here are some things that are best to be avoided on any first date:
Bringing Up Touchy Topics
You know those topics that we’re always told to avoid in a professional setting or with people you aren’t that familiar with? Well, the same rule applies to first dates. Religion, politics and race are definitely touchy topics that are more welcomed way in the future. These topics are too heavy for a first date and could cause unnecessary tension with someone you’re just getting to know, and that can be awkward.
Mentioning Past Lovers
Check please! If you do this, you might as well end the date here. The perfect way to lose the opportunity of a second date is to bring up the ghosts of boyfriends past. Talking about an ex or past lovers on a first date, or any date for that matter, will be a sure sign that you are not over them and not very interested in your date. And it generally creates an uncomfortable situation for your date.
Talking About Sex
Though you may be good at it, you should avoid bringing up how advanced you are in the sex department. Unless your goal is to send a particular message, bringing up sex on a first date can make you come off somewhat fast and frankly, tasteless. We definitely suggest keeping the conversation classy. If the course of the conversation goes that way, take another route and save it for the third or fourth date. Avoiding the topic of sex can add mystery to the conversation and make you more desirable.
Talking Too Much About Yourself
There are probably few things less attractive than someone who spends all day talking about themselves. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a date who talked themselves up the entire time, you know how distasteful this is. Taking the attention off of yourself and showing interest in your date is great to keep a flowing conversation, and the interest will likely be reciprocated.
First dates are meant to be enjoyable. Don’t think too hard and of course, be yourself! Great conversation can’t be forced, so just go with the flow. Avoid some of these topics than can cause unwanted awkward moments or regret, and you’re already half way there.