Should Your Friends’ Opinion of Him Really Matter?
By Shanae Bass
Picking a guy that all of your friends will love is like buying a new pair of heels. Everyone will have an opinion about how they look on you and whether or not you’ve made a smart purchase, but you’re content because you’re already completely smitten and they fit you just right. In a perfect world, friends and boyfriends will always get along, but we know that isn’t always the case. So when it comes to your closest friends, do they always know what’s best or do they just think they do?
After he’s survived meeting your friends, you may or may not be ready to hear the relentless opinions and observations they will have to offer you. Perhaps after interacting with him a few times in combination with what you’ve told them about him, your friends will have formulated a pretty solid opinion. The ones who seem to like your guy will be easy to tolerate, but the ones who disapprove of your relationship will be difficult to manage. Either way, you will have to decipher how much weight any of those opinions will hold on your own perception.
Girlfriends will always have your best interest in mind and will usually find something to nitpick with your new guy because no one will ever be good enough to date you. They sometimes have issues with an age gap, his career choice, the clothes he wears or the things he does or does not do for you. Among other things, these may all be taken into serious consideration if you trust the judgment of your friends and what they know about you. But you must also know to trust your own judgment and formulate your own decision based on your experience with him.
While everyone having a great perception of your guy would make an ideal scenario, gaining your girlfriends’ approval is not the objective of your relationship. Opinions that friends have to offer can sometimes be beneficial and help you avoid an “I told you so” situation, but they can also damage the potential of a relationship. If you learn to weigh the approval of your friends and your own opinions, you can make the decision that will fit you best. And just like those new pair of heels, they will either continue to fit you faithfully or prove to be a bad pair after a few wears.